don't compromise ..

*intermezzo while waiting for the job executing*

a few months back me, jen, and cin were discussing something about matrimony. basically after watching a dvd i told them about it and we ended up talking about it. the talked became deeper when we had dinner after our run. it's normal for us to discuss the movie any of us just watched, even if it's a crap movie. that's what i like - there's always a continuation of a movie we watched.
back to the dvd that i watched - it's about a lady who ended up with someone who is the best for her and her family but not her true love. we then talked about all the what ifs. i remembered me & cin saying that once we're married we wouldn't be looking around so there won't be any chance of us feeling something for someone else. jen insisted that this kind of feeling could not be controlled. i remembered involving in a long discussion afterwards *until i missed desperate housewives!!
so, back home i watched a dvd - typical bollywood movie but with the same issue with what jen mentioned. how a bride-to-be was contemplating on marriage and a stranger talked to her. the reason she said yes to this marriage is because the guy is her close friend and in her words 'when friendships takes the place of love, there's no more place for love'. when she's wondering what if she find her soulmate after marriage, the stranger said 'if you don't look for it, you won't find it' - just like jen's question and me & cin's answered. the guy then told her to think thoroughly before deciding to back out since happiness is awaiting for her and she might not experience this if she back out.
well, after 3 long hours of journey with singing and dancing around watched for 2 days the movie ended with the two couples breaking up. the man even told the wife (the ex bride-to-be) that he realised the wife had never love him but simply compromising him, 3 years went by and those being cheated had moved on with their lives whereas the cheaters not knowing that the other party had been dumped live alone. of course they ended up knowing and were reunited. but the parting words are something like 'be sure that you marry someone that you love, not someone you compromise' - which i believe is true.