Roof Top BBQ Session

order your priorities :- love, trust, respect.

what about: love, trust, sex, respect.

what is a woman's list? what about guys list? what is your list?

what do you look in the opposite sex?

what do you guys think about arrange marriage?

do you have to compromise to make a relationship works? commitment wise?

how can you stay together like our parents? our grandparents?

small matter counts, that's how love is expressed - or is that respect?

what attracts you from the opposite sex, physically?

does a big stone matters that much? what about joint account?

what's with this my money is mine, your money is mine crap?

and the list kept on growing.

from a normal stuff above to sharing about what some see in their relatives to the difference in marriage in different culture we talked and discussed everything openly. i don't know how but somehow around 4ish we started a very very VERY private topic that at first i walked away pretending to be cleaning stuff. but then, after thinking that we're all adult i shared my view of the value i hold dearly (i ended up being spared from few questions, yiihaa) and for sure i do get some interesting educational stuff from others. one of them are so very liberal that even a liberal guy said he is so. when i was asked things i had no idea about i ended up thinking of the malory brothers! haha, thanks ms. lindsey for the wonderful books you wrote about them.

it is an eye-opener session. lets just said everyone shared their deepest dark secret without reservation. somehow without even realising it, we ended up chatting the whole night and only stopped at around 8ish. we saw how the moon moved from one end to another and still continue talking. from yawning to fully awake to shivering from the cold morning air to feeling totally numb from sitting that long due to the talk we had.

the guys are not locals so their view might differs from people here. actually one of them is local but still he spent most of his time abroad. sometimes my imagination just did its own work while listening to them sharing stuff. and fret not girls, you don't have to be so stressed seeing how slim the locals are because that's not what guys want, well not for the non-locals at least. they even said put jessica alba and another girl that has a great aura but not that great figure and they might choose that girl instead. it's all about the aura, or so they said. true though that local tends to pick their preferences based on the society;s expectation instead of their own preference. the one interesting question that is still in my mind was, 'tell us girls, what's so great about that louis vuitton bag. it's just like a walking advertisement and it is hideous.' guys will always be guys eh.

thank you guys for being very open in sharing everything. a best 14 hours bbq party indeed. and to my dear friend who just called me, don't worry about me looking at you differently now that i know your deepest darkest secrets and fantasies. you are still my friend and whatever you do with your personal life is not my business. i won't be judgemental. after all like i always remind myself, you can be among them but you don't have to be one of them.