On Singlehood

a friend was in town and i met her for a catch up earlier. to be perfectly honest, i wasn't overly excited on meeting her because, well, we have a different lifestyle. eventually, i decided to just go with the flow and not caring about any of that.

we chatted a lot, mostly she sharing her current dilemma. i decided to be open minded in responding to her. as selfish as it may sounds, listening to all this kinda issues always makes me feel blessed that my parents had brought me up this way. eventually she started asking me the same old questions people's been asking or probably wondering - don't you feel the need/eager to have some sort of excitement in life (ie. relationship)? since we don't share the same belief, its kinda difficult explaining it from that point of view. so i used my normal answer :- yes i am single and no, i don't want to be single all my life. BUT that doesn't mean i have to whine about my life as a single girl. i am going to enjoy every second of it; doing things i want to do, achieving things i dream of - responsibly. and if one day i got hitched and am not allowed to do any of these anymore, i'm fine - been there done that!

she then asked but why not try? even when you know you'll end up hurt, at least you experience it. well, why bother starting things when you know it won't lead you anywhere. why waste your precious time? i might be a dreamer who can really live in a fantasy world. i might be a romantic fool who has silly romantic ideas. but there are times when i can be realistic too. she kinda nodded her head in agreement, LOL. we continued the conversation and somehow i'm beginning to understand why she is the way she is when she started talking about her family. honestly, i feel a little bit sorry for her and hopes the best for her.

surprisingly the night turns out great, a nice catching up with a live tribal music in the background. i can say this is the first time i have a deep conversation with her but it felt like we've been doing it for ages. unfortunately my avoiding coke is useless. i had a glass of lemon tea and a glass of camomile tea and i'm still wide awake now. oh wait, i had a glass of lemon tea during lunch time. no wonder!!!!